Guru Disciple Relationship: Power of Shelter

                                                                  Q. Let us assume hypothetically that someone accepts the Bhagavad Gita of Srila Prabhupada, and decides to follow and accept that Krishna is the Supreme Personality of Godhead. Then he realizes his inability to choose a guru who is a pure devotee. If he then resorts to simply following Prabhupada, but accepting that he is not a diksha disciple of Prabhupada but a siksha disciple, can he go back to Godhead by following the instructions of Prabhupada and chanting?

                                                                  Q. I live in a devotee community and often feel that I don't know how to associate with others. I love them and try to serve them but all too often I just don't feel emotionally safe in their association. I don't feel free to be open in case they hurt me and thus I am wasting my life constantly holding back (defending like a kicked dog). I am desperate for some clarification on this point.

                                                                  Q. If one is trying from some time to develop relationship with guru by following the process according to his sincerity, still that doesn't happen, or gratitude doesn't come. On contrary, he even struggles to stay awake in chanting. And due to this he feels hopeless and goalless (due to his fruitive mentality), then what should he do? Is there some hope for him? (I'm asking for myself.)

                                                                  Here are 3 thoughts to share with you:

                                                                  1) Be patient, continue with the best intelligence that Krishna provides you, and pray.

                                                                  Q. Once in Krishna Consciousness or devotional service, do we have to offer food and water to forefathers periodically? If not, then why did Caitanya Mahaprabhu go to Gaya for sraddha ceremony? In one purport, Srila Prabhupada says that if offerings to forefathers are stopped, generations of family members remain in hell. Is this true for devotees also?

                                                                  Q. In one of your instructions posted under obstacles (choosing Krishna), you have very rightly warned as to how vigilant we must be in executing our devotional service. That which may look innocent at the beginning could soon turn into an attachment and a problem very difficult to manage later. But what does one do to rectify this if the situation has indeed gone out of hand? One might feel extremely repentant of the choice he made but now that choice has become an attachment. Will Krishna still accept and forgive and give him a chance to choose Him again?

                                                                  Your question was in two parts. I will address them one by one.