Grihastha Ashram: Role of a Wife

                                                                  Q. I was reading about the conversation between Dharmaraja disguised as a Yaksha and Yudhisthira. One of the questions put forward by Yaksha to Yudhisthira was - "since Dharma (Virtue), Artha (Profit), and Kama (Desire) are opposed to each other, how can they co-exist harmoniously?" Yudhisthira replied- "These three become congenial to one another when one has a virtuous wife." Could you please explain on this reply of Yudhisthira?

                                                                  Q. In the Srimad Bhagavatam - Third Canto, Chapter 15: Description of the Kingdom of God - we find some verses and purports with language I find problematic. For example, SB 3.15.17: "In the Vaikuntha planets the inhabitants fly in their airplanes, accompanied by their wives and consorts, and eternally sing of the character and activities of the Lord."
                                                                   

                                                                  Q. Even if a woman keeps serving her husband and family to the best of her ability, still she will not be protected by them at the time of need (as I felt from the story of Draupadi and Sita Devi from Mahabharata and Ramayana.) Then, why and how should I do my duties? What lesson I should take from these stories for my spiritual endeavors?

                                                                  Q. My current obstacle is my family of birth, which does not support Krsna Consciousness and does not accept my devotee husband. For some background: I was born into a white Catholic family in America.  About 10 months ago I came into Krishna Consciousness and 4 months later married an Indian-bodied devotee.  We live in the US, not far from my family.  Previous to Krsna consciousness, I was very close with my family, attending all gatherings and regularly spending one-on-one time with individual members.  I am no longer attracted to attending these gatherings due to their lack of support of Krsna consciousness and my husband.

                                                                  Q. 1. What are the responsibilities of an ideal husband and wife, pertaining to household activities in the current generation?

                                                                  The Vedic terminology for ideal household life is “Grihastha-Ashrama.” The word “ashrama” means a place or situation conducive for spiritual cultivation. Thus, the primary responsibility in grihastha-ashrama, for every member of the household, is to maintain a favorable atmosphere at home for the collective spiritual progress of the family. With this ultimate goal in mind, the husband and wife should co-operate to execute their respective roles and duties.

                                                                  Q. This is a question that I've been pondering over for a long time, but had no courage to ask anyone. While on one side I may be leading a life that's not mine, on another side, there is a certain life that I may want to see, atleast try. Is it possible to be Krishna conscious and lead a life-style of a strict catholic nun? I like the philosophy of loving god, taught in Krishna consciousness, but I am also attracted to the life-style of a catholic nun, in particular the secluded and surrendered life. Unless I try it how will I even know if the life of nun is really what I want or not?